RECALIBRATE

Not values work in the abstract — decisions about the actual job, with the actual constraints, made while you can still remember what the bad version felt like.

Nine parts, with worksheets throughout. It moves in one direction — accurate description first, then what you want, then what you do about it — but nothing has to be done in order, and you can skip what doesn’t fit.

First, an accurate description

• Where you are now — what the work has taken and what it has given, side by side, because most people arrive convinced of one and blind to the other. Three pages that don’t ask you to decide anything yet.
• What matters to you now — finding your values, and then testing them across the areas of your life rather than in the abstract
• Where work sits in the rest of your life — the Life Map, and a worksheet for working out how much room it’s actually taking

Then, what you can and can’t accept

• Conflict, compromise, and what you can no longer accept — four situations that all get called “values conflict at work”, told apart because they need different responses: competing, chosen, imposed, and not acceptable
• What you actually want — deliberately short, easy to skip, and the part that stops you making the same change twice

Then, the four possibilities and what you do next

• Stay · Change · Leave · Not Yet — a page each, worked through in full including the ones you’re sure aren’t for you. Not yet is a position, not a failure to take one — done properly it has a date on it and a list attached.
• Choosing where to put your attention — sorted by what things ask of you, not by impact and effort. That’s how you’d choose between projects, not between parts of your life.
• Making it something you’ll actually do — five plain questions, and one test applied throughout: would you still do this on a Thursday when everything has gone wrong?
• Staying with it — the Weekly Reset, one page for when you stall, one for the weeks that go badly. No habit grid, no streak to protect, no reward system.

What changes is that “What do I do?” stops being one enormous question. You can see what would have to change for staying to work, what changing something might actually involve, whether leaving is something you’re moving towards rather than simply escaping from — and whether Not Yet is the most honest answer for now. You don’t have to finish with a major decision. Clarity can be enough.

A workbook, not a course — no videos, no modules, no login, nothing that expires.

On a day when opening a workbook is more than you have: there’s a ten-minute version at the front — three questions, then stop.